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Manoah said, Now let thy words come to pass. How shall we order the child, and how shall we do unto him ? Judges xiii. 8. 12. Both young men, and maidens; old men, and children ; let them praise
the name of the Lord. Psal. cxlviii. 12, 13. 6. Second- 6. To avoid fornication, let every man have his ly, It was or dained for a
own wife, and let every woman have her own husremedy band. 1 Cor. vii. 2. This is the will of God, even against sin, and to avoid your sanctification, that ye should abstain from forfornication; nication. 1 Thess. iv. 3. Know ye not that your persons as bodies are the members of Christ ? Shall I then take have not the the members of Christ, and make them the memgift of continency bers of an harlot ? God forbid. 1 Cor. vi. 15. We might marry, and keep
know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like
him. And every man that hath this hope in him, members of purifieth himself, even as he is pure. 1 John iü. 2, Christ's body: 3. And the Lord God said, It is not good that the was ordained man should be alone ; I will make him an help tual society, meet for him. Gen. ii. 18. Two are better than help, and
one; because they have a good reward for their lacomfort, that the one ought bour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his felto have of the low: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth ; prosperity for he hath not another to help him up. Eccl. iv. ty. Into 9, 10. Let
every one of you in particular so love which holy his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she
reverence her husband. He that loveth his wife present come loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own joined. flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it. Eph. v. 33.
The unbelieving husband is sanctified by shewany just the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by they may not the husband. 1 Cor. vii. 14. And Isaac took Relawfully be
bekah, and she became his wife ; and he loved her: joined togeiher, let him and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death,
Gen. xxiv. 67. And David comforted Bathsheba after for ever his wife. 2 Sam. xii. 24. The Pharisees came unto
him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause ! And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife : and they twain shall be one flesh?
estate these two persons
now to be
any man can 28, 29.
now speak, or else here
hold his peace.
Wherefore they are no more twain but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Matt. xix. 3 to 6. 9.
CXCVI. The Charge to the two persons now to be
joined together in holy Matrimony.
Swer at the
1. I require 1. The priest shall charge her by an oath. Num. and charge you both, as
v. 19. The high priest answered and said unto him, ye will an- I adjure thee by the living God. Matt. xxvi. 63. I dreadful day say unto you, that every idle word that men shall of judgment speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of secrets of all judgment. Matt. xii. 36. God shall bring every be disclosed, work into judgment, with every secret thing, whethat if either ther it be good, or whether it be evil. Eccl. xii. 14. any impedi- In the day when God shall judge the secrets of ment, why se men by Jesus Christ. Rom. ii. 16. There is nothing lawfully join . covered, that shall not be revealed; neither hid, that in Matrimo- shall not be known. Luke xii. 2. He that covereth ny, ye do now his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and confess it.
forsaketh them shall have mercy. Prov. xxviii. 13. 2. For be 2. Be sure your sins will find you out. Num. Je well as
xxxii. 23. Though hand join in hand, the wicked
shall not be unpunished. Prov. xi. 21. Herod himare coupled together
self had sent forth and laid hold upon John, and otherwise than God's
bound him in prison for Herodias's sake, his brother Word doth Philip's wife : for he had married her. For John Solomon dot had said unto Herod, It is not lawful for thee to ther by God; have thy brother's wife. Mark vi. 17, 18. Should their Matri-, we again break thy commandments, and join in mony lawful.
affinity with the people of these abominations ? wouldest not thou be angry with us till thou hadst consumed us? Ezra ix. 14. And Shechaniah the son of Jehiel, one of the sons of Elam, answered and said unto Ezra, We have trespassed against our God, and have taken strange wives of the people of the land : yet now there is hope in Israel
sured, that so many as
concerning this thing. Now therefore let us make a covenant with our God to put away all the wives, and such as are born of them, according to the counsel of my lord, and of those that tremble at the commandment of our God; and let it be done according to the law. Arise ; for this matter belongeth unto thee ; be of good courage, and do it. Then arose Ezra, and made the chief priests, the Levites, and all Israel, to swear that they should do according to this word. And they sware. And Ezra the priest stood up, and said unto them, Ye have transgressed, and taken strange wives, to increase the trespass of Israel. Now therefore make confession unto the Lord God of your fathers, and do his pleasure : and separate yourselves from the people of the land, and from the strange wives. Then all the congregation answered and said with a loud voice, As thou hast said, so must we do. Ezra x. 2 to 5. 10, 11, 12.
M. Wilt thou have this Woman
God's ordinance, in the
CXCVII.-Enquiries respecting the mutual consent
And he answered and said unto them, Have ye
not read, that he which made them at the beginto thy wedded ning made them male and female, and said, For together after this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and
shall cleave to his wife : and they twain shall be holy estate of one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain but Matrimony?
one flesh. Matt. xix. 4, 5, 6. So ought men to
love their wives as their own bodies. He that honour, and loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever sickness and yet hated his own flesh ; but nourisheth and che
risheth it, even as the Lord the Church. Eph. v. ing all other, 28, 29. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them keep thee
according to knowledge, giving honour unto the only unto her, so long wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs
together of the grace of life ; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Pet. iii. 7. To avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence : and likewise also
Wilt thou love her, cornfort her,
in health; and, forsak
as ye both shall live?
the wife unto the husband. I Cor. vii. 2, 3. Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity. Eccl. ix. 9. Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth, and be thou ravished always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger ? Prov. v. 15 to 20. Take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. The Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away. Mal. ii. 15, 16. Let not the husband put away his wife. I Cor. vii. 11. And now, my daughter, fear not; I will do to thee all that thou requirest. So Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife. Ruth iii. 11. iv, 13.
1. N. Wilt thou have this Man to
CXCVIII. Enquiries, fc. No. 2. 1. And they called Rebekah, and said unto her,
Wilt thou go with this man ? And she said, I will thy wedded go. Gen. xxiv. 58. And the Lord God said, It is live together not good that the man should be alone; I will make ordinance,
him an help meet for him. Gen. ii. 18. Sara obeyed in the holy Abraham, calling him lord. 1 Pet. iii. 6. Wives, Matrimony?
submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit
in the Lord. Col. iii. 18. Wives, submit yourselves obey him, and
unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Therelove, honour, fore as the Church is subject unto Christ, so let the and keep him in sickness wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Let and in health; the wife see that she reverence her husband. Eph. ing all other, v. 22. 24. 33. That they (the aged women] may keep thee only unto teach the young women to be sober, to love their him, so long husbands, to love their children, to be discreet,
chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus ii. 4, 5. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of
as ye both shall live!
her life. Prov. xxxi. 11, 12. The strange woman, which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God. Prov. ii. 16, 17. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband
liveth. 1 Cor. vii. 39. See also, 1 Sam. xxv. 39, 40. 2. Who 2. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken giveth this Woman to be
from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto married to the man. Gen. ii. 22. He that giveth her in marthis Man?
riage doeth well. 1 Cor. vii, 38.
CXCIX and CC. The Mutual Stipulation.
I M. take thee N. to my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth.
I N. take thee M. to my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.
The Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife ? tempting him. Jesus answered and said unto them, From the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. Mark x. 2. 5 to 8. 11, 12. He saith unto them, Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. Matt. xix. 8 See also, 1 Cor. vii. 5.
CCI. The Giving and the Receiving of the Ring as
the solemn Pledge of the mutual Engagement. With this
Now this was the manner in former time in Israel Ring I thee concerning redeeming and concerning changing, for wed, with my body I thee to confirm all things; a man plucked off his shoe, worship mand and gave it to his neighbour : and this was a testi