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advisedly, soberly, and
in the fear of God; duly considering
Judith the daughter of Beeri the Hittite, and Bashemath the daughter of Elon the Hittite, which were a grief of mind unto Isaac and to Rebekah. the causes for Gen. xxvi. 34, 35. And Rebekah said to Isaac, I am which Matri- weary of my life because of the daughters of Heth : if Jacob take a wife of the daughters of Heth, such as these which are the daughters of the land, what good shall my life do me? And Isaac called Jacob, and blessed him, and charged him, and said unto him, Thou shalt not take a wife of the daughters of Canaan. Gen. xxvii. 46. xxviii. 1. When the Lord thy God shall bring thee into the land whither thou goest to possess it, and hath cast out many nations before thee, thou shalt make no covenant with them; neither shalt thou make marriages with them; for they will turn away thy son from following me. Deut. vii. 1 to 4. But king Solomon loved many strange women, and it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods. 1 Kings xi. 1. 4. These filthy dreamers defile the flesh. What they know naturally as brute beasts, in those things they corrupt themselves. Jude 8. 10. Be not as the horse, or as the mule, which hath no understanding. Psal. xxxii. 9. Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. Prov. xxxi. 10. A prudent wife is from the Lord. Prov. xix. 14. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Prov. iii. 6. See that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise. Eph. v. 15. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth ; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 1 Cor. vii. 39. Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? and what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 2 Cor. vi. 14, 15. And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: and I will make thee swear by the
5. First, It
for the pro
Lord, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth,
5. God created man in his own image, in the was ordained image of God created he him; male and female crecreation of ated he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and plenish the earth. Gen. i. 27, 28.
children, to be brought
up in the
multiply and reYe fathers, proture of the voke not your children to wrath; but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Eph. vi. 4. Then Manoah entreated the Lord, and said, O my Lord, let the man of God which thou didst send come again unto us, and teach us what we shall do unto the child that shall be born. And
Lord, and to the praise of his holy Name.
6. Secondly, It was or
dained for a remedy
have not the gift of continency
might marry, and keep
Manoah said, Now let thy words come to pass. How shall we order the child, and how shall we do unto him? Judges xiii. 8. 12. Both young men, and maidens; old men, and children; let them praise the name of the Lord. Psal. cxlviii. 12, 13.
6. To avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Cor. vii. 2. This is the will of God, even and to avoid your sanctification, that ye should abstain from forfornication; nication. 1 Thess. iv. 3. Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 1 Cor. vi. 15. We know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him. And every man that hath this hope in him, members of purifieth himself, even as he is pure. 1 John iii. 2, Christ's body. 3. And the Lord God said, It is not good that the Thirdly, It was ordained man should be alone; I will make him an help tual society, meet for him. Gen. ii. 18. Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their lathe one ought bour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his felto have of the low: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth ; other, both in prosperity for he hath not another to help him up. Eccl. iv. 9, 10. Let every one of you in particular so love which holy his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. He that loveth his wife
for the mu
now to be
lawfully be joined together, let him now speak, or else here
present come loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it. Eph. v. 33. any man can 28, 29. The unbelieving husband is sanctified by shew any just the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by they may not the husband. 1 Cor. vii. 14. And Isaac took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death. Gen. xxiv. 67. And David comforted Bathsheba his wife. 2 Sam. xii. 24. The Pharisees came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife and they twain shall be one flesh?
after for ever
hold his peace.
1. I require and charge you both, as ye will answer at the
of you know
Wherefore they are no more twain but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Matt. xix. 3 to 6. 9.
CXCVI. The Charge to the two persons now to be joined together in holy Matrimony.
1. The priest shall charge her by an oath. Num. v. 19. The high priest answered and said unto him, I adjure thee by the living God. Matt. xxvi. 63. I dreadful day say unto you, that every idle word that men shall of judgment speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of secrets of all judgment. Matt. xii. 36. God shall bring every be disclosed, work into judgment, with every secret thing, whethat if either ther it be good, or whether it be evil. Eccl. xii. 14. any impedi- In the day when God shall judge the secrets of ment, why ye men by Jesus Christ. Rom. ii. 16. There is nothing lawfully join covered, that shall not be revealed; neither hid, that ed together shall not be known. Luke xii. 2. He that covereth ny, ye do now his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy. Prov. xxviii. 13. 2. Be sure your sins will find you out. Num. xxxii. 23. Though hand join in hand, the wicked so many as shall not be unpunished. Prov. xi. 21. Herod himare coupled together self had sent forth and laid hold upon John, and otherwise than God's bound him in prison for Herodias's sake, his brother Word doth Philip's wife: for he had married her. For John alow, are not joined togehad said unto Herod, It is not lawful for thee to ther by God; have thy brother's wife. Mark vi. 17, 18. Should their Matri- We again break thy commandments, and join in mony lawful. affinity with the people of these abominations?
2. For be Je well assured, that
wouldest not thou be angry with us till thou hadst consumed us? Ezra ix. 14. And Shechaniah the son of Jehiel, one of the sons of Elam, answered and said unto Ezra, We have trespassed against our God, and have taken strange wives of the people of the land: yet now there is hope in Israel
concerning this thing. Now therefore let us make a covenant with our God to put away all the wives, and such as are born of them, according to the counsel of my lord, and of those that tremble at the commandment of our God; and let it be done according to the law. Arise; for this matter belongeth unto thee; be of good courage, and do it. Then arose Ezra, and made the chief priests, the Levites, and all Israel, to swear that they should do according to this word. And they sware. And Ezra the priest stood up, and said unto them, Ye have transgressed, and taken strange wives, to increase the trespass of Israel. Now therefore make confession unto the Lord God of your fathers, and do his pleasure and separate yourselves from the people of the land, and from the strange wives. Then all the congregation answered and said with a loud voice, As thou hast said, so must we do. Ezra x. 2 to 5. 10, 11, 12.
CXCVII. Enquiries respecting the mutual consent of the parties in contracting Matrimony. No. 1.
And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginto thy wedded ning made them male and female, and said, For wife, to live together after this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and God's ordi- shall cleave to his wife and they twain shall be holy estate of one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain but Matrimony? one flesh. Matt. xix. 4, 5, 6. love their wives as their own loveth his wife loveth himself.
comfort her, honour, and
sickness and in health; and, forsak
ing all other, keep thee only unto
So ought men to bodies. He that For no man ever
keep her in yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the Church. Eph. v. 28, 29. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the her, so long wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Pet. iii. 7. To avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also
as ye both shall live?